Happy Parents’ Day!

Saturday July 24, 2021

 

Human beings are known as social beings. Since the time we are born, we start developing a web of social relations around us in the form of family, friends, colleagues etc. Our engagement, bonding and the duration of the ties differ in each of the relationships. But when asked, which is the most cherished relation in our life? The unanimous answer is – the one between a parent and child.

The parent-child relationship is one that nurtures the physical, emotional and social development of a person since the time of birth. Therefore, a healthy parent-child relationship is extremely important to lay down a strong foundation for the child’s personality, life choices and community behavior. In order to emphasize this point and promote responsible parenting, a National Parents Day is celebrated.

All personalities are unique, and when nurtured in the right way, they blossom beautifully.

Emphasizing the role of parents, Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan, an enlightened being says, “Every young adult has the potential to help the entire world. He just needs the right guidance and support.”

To gift our child a happy life ahead, here are a few practical ways for an all-round parenting approach:

Role-division of parents

Parents should discuss and divide the responsibilities of children amongst themselves. Ideally, until the age of fourteen, a child needs more of mother’s love and attention. During this time, fathers may restrict their involvement to the important life-impacting decisions like: in which school to get their child’s admission, what career could the child pursue, etc. After the age of fifteen, let the father take a lead role in child development. This is a critical role for a father to help his child grow in a manner that he can take on life and execute the responsibilities in the right spirit.

Love in one eye and strictness in the other eye

At times, children get provoked on the wrong path mainly because of the over-display of love by parents. Therefore, parents ought to bring about normality in everything. Maintain love in one eye, and strictness in the other. Strictness does not harm the other person much; anger causes a lot of damage. As parents, say everything, but dramatically. What is considered to be drama? It means calmness prevails within, even when you are showing the anger externally.

Don’t control; Shower love from the heart

This is a most important role of parents. When you speak to your children, it should not be with an authoritative tone. For example, if a child gets 60% marks and shows to the father, the father should say, ‘It is good that you have passed the exam, but this is not sufficient. I expect from you a better result of around 85 % so that you can become a good engineer’, and then leave the topic. After that, don’t keep on reminding him that you asked him to get good marks. He already has it in his mind. If you keep on nagging, he will tend to ignore your words.

Maintain Friendship

Param Pujya Dadashri explains that until the child is seven to eight years, and he makes a mistake – the parents have to discipline the child as necessary; up to the age of twelve to fifteen, you can guide them; but after sixteen you have to be friends with your children. If you become a friend to your children, they will improve. But if you assert your authority as a parent, you will risk losing them. 

These are just some of the keys to build a strong and a healthy relationship with your children.

No matter how old the child grows, only situations change, but principles remain the same always.  Hence, on this Parents Day, let us introspect, and resolve to strengthen our relationship with our children, who will also become good parents to their kids in future, thus producing an entire generation of responsible citizens.

Wishing us all a Happy Parent’s Day!

 

Happy Gurupurnima!

Tuesday July 20, 2021

Today is Guru Purnima, one of the most reverent days celebrated to express our gratitude to the ‘Guru’ (teacher), who has guided us in our journey of life and has shaped us to become what we are today.

In Sanskrit, ‘Purnima’ refers to the full moon, symbolizing our transition from darkness to full light with the help of a ‘Guru’. The further dissection of the word ‘Guru’ gives us ‘Gu’ which means moving away from darkness and ‘Ru’ implies inviting light and illumination into life. India celebrates a rich and long tradition of Guru-Shishya parampara (tradition) and the same continues even today.

Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan says, “You will need a Guru until the very end. Even if you want to go to the station, you need a Guru. If you want to learn, you need a teacher. Even the Guru needs his own Guru.” Such is the importance of having a Guru in our life!

But just having a Guru isn’t enough; it is equally important to have faith in our Guru. Whoever the Guru may be, it is our faith that gives us the result. We are all familiar with the story of the great Bheema, who wrote the name of his Guru on a pot and daily worshipped it with complete faith.

Along with complete faith, it is also important to cultivate the qualities needed to become the rightful Guru and a worthy shishya. According to Param Pujya Dadashri, “The Guru’s moral character should be absolutely pure. One is not a Guru if his moral character is not proper; it would be meaningless.” Talking about the qualities of a disciple, He says, “When the Guru acts crazy, even then the disciple doesn’t lose faith in him. That is the quality of a disciple.”

As mentioned above, a Guru is important to progress ahead in life. He can bring us up to the stage He is! However, if one desires spiritual progress, then without a Gnani Purush (the Enlightened One), there’s no liberation. The Guru gives Gnan (knowledge) and the Gnani gives Vignan (Absolute Science).

On this occasion of Gurupurnima, let us remember all our Gurus whom we have met in our life and express our heart-felt gratitude to them for their contribution in making us what we are today.

 

Happy Gnan Day Pujya Niruma!

Wednesday July 7, 2021

How often do we come across people who have dedicated their lives for others?

Living for others gives us the right purpose to live and helps us grow in our endeavor.

20 years of service to the Enlightened One, Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan, carved a path for Pujya Niruma, to lead a life with a higher purpose and become the beacon of Jagat Kalyan i.e. Salvation of the World.

Param Pujya Dadashri’s directive for Pujya Niruma, “You have to become the mother of the entire world!” was enough for her to get going on the path of serving others. Param Pujya Dadashri clearly understood young Niruben’s unflinching desire for the salvation of the world. But before becoming eligible to become the torchbearer, it was important for Her to pass through the litmus test of purity and dedication as envisioned by Param Pujya Dadashri.

Param Pujya Dadashri started to groom Niruben, carving away all the weaknesses and imperfections within Her. Though the process wasn’t as easy as it sounds, it was Niruben’s complete surrender and humility that made all the undertakings by Param Pujya Dadashri possible. She always knew in Her heart that anything done by the Gnani is always for Her ultimate salvation only.

She strived not only to achieve Her goal, but also helped several others to attain their spiritual goals. And finally, when directed by Param Pujya Dadashri, Niruben took on the formidable role, that of being the world’s Mother. The love She showed for everyone around Her was incomparable and that is the reason that She came to be called as ‘Maa’ by everyone irrespective of their ages. Many young men and women considered Her to be their role model and came to Her to looking forward to live a celibate life and join Her in Param Pujya Dadashri’s mission.

Such is our dear Niruma!

Isn’t it wonderful to see how a single minded determination and dedication can lead to a life worth living and following?

On this auspicious occasion of Pujya Niruma’s Gnan Day (Self-Realization Day), let’s resolve to live our life with a higher purpose like Her and attain our spiritual goals in life. Let’s follow our dear Niruma and determine to be devoted like Her in rendering seva (service) for the most noble cause of Jagat kalyan (salvation to the world) and at the same time persevering for the ultimate spiritual goal of Moksha (liberation) as well.

 

Happy Global Forgiveness Day!

Monday July 5, 2021

Forgiveness, the quintessential human quality, is sometimes undervalued in our lives. Different dictionaries define the term in their own ways. Psychologists define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance towards a person or a group. All religions around the world preach the importance of the role that forgiveness plays in one’s spiritual development. And also, a special day has been dedicated in the name of the Global Forgiveness Day. This day reminds us to set all our differences aside and work on forgiving the hurts and conflicts that have happened in our life, so that we can start living with oneness between each other.

As per Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan, an enlightened being, “Life is not meant for hurting anyone. If you hurt the person, you will surely have to amend the situation.” Amending the situation means to forgive and avoid ruminating on thoughts of being hurt by others. Initially, it might not seem easy to forgive someone who has wronged us, but ultimately it is we who suffer in such a situation, because the sorrow is intensified when we keep the hurt alive. And if we continue to hold onto it for long, these toxic and destructive emotions have the potential to cause several physical and mental dis-eases to us.

So the next obvious question might be, how do we forgive someone when they continue to hurt us again and again? Param Pujya Dadashri gives us practical ways to immune ourselves from the hurt and suffering caused by others.

Param Pujya Dadashri says, “Try as best as you can to explain to him in a gentle manner. There is no other way because you do not have any control over the matter. You have no choice other than to forgive him. If you do not forgive, you will end up forgiving after more suffering.”

Isn’t this an easy way out?

This was about when someone hurts us by his thoughts, words or actions, but what if people are hurt because of our thoughts, words or actions? In that case, of course, asking for forgiveness is the only way out. Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan has given us the tool of PRATIKRAMAN for it.

So what is Pratikraman?

Pratikraman means to ask for forgiveness for any negative feelings that are harbored by us for the other person. Atikraman means to walk on the wrong path and Pratikraman means to retrace our footsteps.

How to do pratikraman?

It is very easy. Think of the person whom you have hurt and pray to his inner pure Soul by saying, “Dear Soul, I apologize for having hurt this person. I seek forgiveness for this hurt that I have caused. And I strongly resolve to not repeat this mistake ever again.”

Anger, resentment, seeing faults of others, etc. keep us stuck in the past as we keep replaying the incident of the hurt of suffering, again and again. If we want a happier life, it is important to let go of the toxic emotions, forgive the perpetrator, and ask for forgiveness for the hurt caused to us and/or by us.

So come, on this occasion of Global Forgiveness Day, let us resolve to free ourselves from the past by forgiving all and seeking forgiveness from all those whom we have hurt by our mind, speech and body, and thus create a miracle in our life by living in the present moment!

Happy Birthday Pujya Deepakbhai

Saturday May 8, 2021

Happy Birthday Pujya Deepakbhai

Today, 9th May, is a festive day for one and all, as it is the birthday of our beloved Pujya Deepakbhai!

Pujya Deepakbhai holds a very special place in every heart. What exactly is the reason for that?

Let’s find out by going through some interesting examples of Pujya Deepakbhai’s life.

Pujya Deepakbhai Desai was a young mechanical engineering student, studying at VJTI College, Mumbai when He met Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan for the very first time, in 1971. An introvert guy, who used to shy away from all public appearances, has today become a powerful inspiration for tens of thousands of people around the world. This lofty achievement was not achieved overnight; it’s a result of a sincere, dedicated and consistent effort over the years.

One of the virtues for which Pujya Deepakbhai is best known for is His SINCERITY

Pujya Deepakbhai says, “Sincerity means to ‘stick to’ it (the work you are responsible for). If you are slow, then work slowly. If you are fast, then work accordingly. But complete whatever work has been given to you…. My rule is, that sincerity starts from the time I open my eyes and from then on there is no slacking. (To my mind), the importance of work would be so much that my sincerity towards it would override the normal routine like eating, drinking, sleeping and going out.”

Such is the value of sincerity in Pujya Deepakbhai’s life!

Even Param Pujya Dadashri often praised this quality of Pujya Deepakbhai, “Deepak has a great virtue of sincerity. Whatever He does, He will do it sincerely, till the end. This sincerity will take Him to great heights!”

Pujya Deepakbhai sincerely believes, ‘If I remain sincere to my work, then even the work will remain sincere to me.’ One day, while sharing His experience of His early days of working as an engineer, He said, “I used to repair the machines with such sincerity that they shouldn’t get damaged when I am away for satsang for 3-4 months.”

Since the day He met Param Pujya Dadashri, one seva that has always remained with Him is the editing of books on Param Pujya Dadashri’s speech. “I plan my work in such a manner that it becomes convenient for whoever takes my place in the future. This way I am sincere towards the person and the work”, says Pujya Deepakbhai.

To be sincere to work, in a manner so that nobody faces any problem related to it, in future – this extraordinary gesture certainly highlights His foresight and vision related to the task he has been assigned, but at the same time, it also reflects upon the love, respect and commitment that He has for this important seva and for the people who are and who will be involved in future with this seva which He has been entrusted with.

Even today, Pujya Deepakbhai works relentlessly on any work that requires His approval to proceed ahead. “I never look for my own convenience, I work twice as hard, but Mahatmas should get the things at the right time. To keep up to their time is sincerity” - these are the words and feelings of our Revered Pujya Deepakbhai, who all the time, remains concerned about other’s convenience first!

Also, ever since He attained Gnan (Self-Realization) from Param Pujya Dadashri, he has always remained sincere to Gnan in all ways; that’s indeed the secret of His good progress and having attained great spiritual heights.

Friends, these were some small glimpses of Pujya Deepakbhai’s life, from which we come to know about His extraordinary Sincerity. Moreover, we got to learn that being sincere doesn’t only mean completing our task on time, it implies being sincere to everyone and everything one comes across in life, be it people, machines, work, knowledge, concern for others, anything. Thus, this sneak peek into Pujya Deepakbhai’s life has given us a much bigger meaning of this word.

Today, being the birthday of our beloved Pujya Deepakbhai, let us all wish Him a very long and healthy life, and may He continue to inspire millions of people around the world with His virtues, and help spread the priceless Gnan (Self-Realization) in every corner of the world, throughout His life!

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